Anybody ever tell you that you think too much?
If my life were a sitcom, the theme for this week would be about trusting your instincts. I learned the hard way more than once in the last month that my instincts know a lot more than I do and I should just learn to trust them–even when it comes to the small things.
I’d been hearing a lot about Steve Harvey’s book ‘Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man’, and I’m embarrassed to admit it, but I bought the book against my instinct. I knew it was going to be full of assumptions, but I wanted to know what all the fuss was about. Needless to say I wound up returning the book for a full refund (minus shipping fees). Harvey basically assumes men are clueless fools who will take advantage of women who don’t demand they shape up. I decided on sending the book back when I saw the phrase ‘how to get The Ring’. What’s this idea that women have to work at getting any ring? I have enough things to think about on a daily basis, I refuse to subscribe to the idea that I have to work any man in to giving me a ring. I’d rather buy one for myself.
Relationships should be as easy as possible! You shouldn’t have to worry about whether or not ‘he’s into you’–if you’re asking yourself whether or not someone is really interested in you, they’re probably not. The only question you have to ask yourself is whether or not you’re willing to stick with someone who leaves you wondering. Living and creating a life with another person is difficult. It makes no sense to make that any more difficult by questioning whether or not you want to be with a particular person, or if they want to be with you.
This got me thinking about instinct and relationships. You have to feel good about who you’re with. There are certain things you shouldn’t wonder about, what specifically you have to figure out yourself, but the bottom line is you have to pay attention to yourself and pay attention to your instincts. I found an eHow article on how to trust instincts. It’s kind of embarrassing that we’ve lost touch so much we need to be taught how to pay attention to ourselves.
I know for sure my decision to go back to school was based on instinct. Yes, I will be leaving a full time job in what’s being called ‘the worst recession since the great depression’, but my instinct told me to go for what I really want to go for right now. I didn’t think about the decision too much, I just did it, that’s how I know it’s right for me.
You don’t have to be taught how to follow or trust instinct, it’s real simple–it’s instinct!
