In September I’ll be working with Meal Exchange as a Campus Coordinator at Seneca. We’ll be working to help hunger disappear across Canada.
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It’s inevitable. When you’re moving from one place to the next, whether it be from school to job, or from one job to the next (or to no job), people will promise to ‘keep in touch’. In the past, I always agreed with a whole lot of hesitation. It doesn’t matter who–it could be a new friend from college or university, or a manager who could be a good reference, I promise to keep in touch knowing I probably won’t.
This past week it seems I’ve been reaching out to almost everybody. Old friends from school, past workplaces, even interviewers I really got along with. But it seems I haven’t gotten any responses. I realized I had the wrong number for one friend I meant to keep in touch with, but what about everybody else? It makes me wonder: Am I having a ‘failure to communicate’? When we say we’re going to keep in touch with someone, does that promise have an expiration date? After a couple weeks/months/years, does your promise to ‘keep in touch’ no longer apply?
As someone who has struggled with depression for years, I knew myself enough to know that I would never keep in touch no matter how many times I said it. It was the nature of the beast. Most of the time I didn’t want to talk to anyone, so why would I keep in touch? Of course I’ve never been honest about it. After hearing ‘keep in touch’, no one responds: “I would, but I’m depressed and I don’t have the energy for that.” I worry: Now that I’ve realized I do want to keep in touch, have my promises gone bad? Maybe it would be better to be honest and say “I suffer from depression sometimes and I go in to hiding, so I probably won’t keep in touch, but I’ll call you when I feel better!”
If owners have to pick up after their dogs, police officers should have to pick up after their horses.
Anybody ever tell you that you think too much?
If my life were a sitcom, the theme for this week would be about trusting your instincts. I learned the hard way more than once in the last month that my instincts know a lot more than I do and I should just learn to trust them–even when it comes to the small things.
I’d been hearing a lot about Steve Harvey’s book ‘Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man’, and I’m embarrassed to admit it, but I bought the book against my instinct. I knew it was going to be full of assumptions, but I wanted to know what all the fuss was about. Needless to say I wound up returning the book for a full refund (minus shipping fees). Harvey basically assumes men are clueless fools who will take advantage of women who don’t demand they shape up. I decided on sending the book back when I saw the phrase ‘how to get The Ring’. What’s this idea that women have to work at getting any ring? I have enough things to think about on a daily basis, I refuse to subscribe to the idea that I have to work any man in to giving me a ring. I’d rather buy one for myself.
Relationships should be as easy as possible! You shouldn’t have to worry about whether or not ‘he’s into you’–if you’re asking yourself whether or not someone is really interested in you, they’re probably not. The only question you have to ask yourself is whether or not you’re willing to stick with someone who leaves you wondering. Living and creating a life with another person is difficult. It makes no sense to make that any more difficult by questioning whether or not you want to be with a particular person, or if they want to be with you.
This got me thinking about instinct and relationships. You have to feel good about who you’re with. There are certain things you shouldn’t wonder about, what specifically you have to figure out yourself, but the bottom line is you have to pay attention to yourself and pay attention to your instincts. I found an eHow article on how to trust instincts. It’s kind of embarrassing that we’ve lost touch so much we need to be taught how to pay attention to ourselves.
I know for sure my decision to go back to school was based on instinct. Yes, I will be leaving a full time job in what’s being called ‘the worst recession since the great depression’, but my instinct told me to go for what I really want to go for right now. I didn’t think about the decision too much, I just did it, that’s how I know it’s right for me.
You don’t have to be taught how to follow or trust instinct, it’s real simple–it’s instinct!
After being cooped up in the house for about a week with Flu-Like Symptoms, I’m anxious to get outside for some networking and Vitamin D. That’s one thing I love about Toronto–there’s always something free to do in the area. The 25th of this month is Third Tuesday in Toronto, a meet up of pr professionals and social media enthusiasts who want to learn more about social media. I can’t wait to go. Hopefully I’ll be done with this flu by then, if not I’ll probably spend the night in a hospital rather than meeting anyone at Third Tuesday.
Speaking of days, I can’t believe May is nearly over already. 2009 is almost half done. In a few months, I’ll be leaving my overnight job to study Corporate Communications at Seneca College. After doing the fitness show in April I realized that public relations is where I want to go, so I’m going there starting September. Granted I could have done all of this last year, but who knows? That idea only invites a lot of ’shoulda, coulda, woulda’ thinking and I don’t have time for that.
As far as the competition went, it was a mini-disaster. But I had fun, so “that’s the most important part” I guess. For a while I thought I had to try again, to sort of ‘make-up’ for this blunder, but I changed my mind. I do what I want and what I want to do is corporate communications. So putting my time and money in to competing as a fitness model doesn’t make any sense. To be honest I’d feel much more comfortable competing if I knew everything else in my life was in order; mainly my career.
If there’s one thing that kills cravings, it’s toothpaste and mouthwash. I overheard this tip while passing by one of those tabloid tv shows. Pamela Anderson apparently brushes her teeth whenever she’s craving something bad. I tried the same thing a couple times and it works! Mouthwash gives an added kick–something with a good burn. After that, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches don’t sound so good!
After slacking off for the past few months, I figured I probably wasn’t going to make it to April 11th. A friend who knows a lot more than I do told me that if I stick to my diet and exercise for the next month, I’ll be competition ready, so I committed.
It’s been six days and I’m noticing some new cuts in my arms and abs. Hotness!
So today in the gym I did my legs: 3 sets of 25 leg extensions, 3 sets of 15 (3×15) seated leg curls, 3×20 lying leg curls, 4×20 seated calf exercises, 3×15/3×25 superset walking lunges and (more) leg extensions, 4×25 leg presses, 3×20 standing calf raises, and 3 one-minute sets of standing on my calves until they burn out.
I actually started to feel a little physically sick after doing all that business, so I did about 25 minutes of cardio–intervals with one minute going as fast as I can, 30 seconds slowly.
The diet has been a struggle to adjust to, especially with my backwards schedule. Most people (personal trainers/bodybuilders) I talked to told me to cook for the week, but because I’m no good in the kitchen, I’m usually up cooking past my bedtime, then I’m tired when I wake up, then I don’t feel like working out ’cause I didn’t sleep enough, etc. But I’m going to try it again. This time I’m looking in to getting a grill from Cuisinart (not from Canadian Tire though). That should make cooking chicken, fish and beef easier… Honestly I don’t know why I didn’t think of that before.
One of the things I’ve learned is that cooked vegetables don’t last the week. Laugh if you must, but I figured it’s probably best to buy and cook vegetables every couple of days… Lesson Learned.
